Lesson Learned V. 3
Lesson: It’s okay to let go.
I had a revelation about a month ago while reading on the subway on the way to work. As I was reading I was thinking about feelings of betrayal & hurt from someone I once called a friend. I knew I had to forgive her and I’ve been able to do so. However, I realized that I needed to let go of the pain of feeling betrayed but I also realized that it’s possible for me to forgive her AND let go of the friendship at the same time.
I realize that it’s okay to say “I love you. I forgive you but I can no longer have a relationship/friendship with you.”
We deserve to have relationships that empower us and bring more positivity than negativity into our lives. It’s okay to let go of relationships that don’t fit this mold. I used to feel like I had to hold a record of my past hurt and people who’ve done me wrong, hold onto being a victim. But now I see that we don’t have to be victims instead we can be victorious because we’ve survived the negativity, pain and struggles.
In addition, aside from relationships, it is okay to let go of negative words, actions and thoughts that are doing more harm than good to our lives. It’s okay and it’s necessary that we let go and stop replaying in our minds what could have been done differently or what we wish would have happened. We can stop holding on to words and insults hurled onto ourselves by people around us and even by the works of our minds.
Sure it may take a lot of hard work, a lot of trial and error and a lot of soul-searching. Yet, in order to become a freer, more successful person we have to let go of the habits, relationships, thoughts and theories that aren’t working. We can release ourselves from the chains of the past, learn from it and move on. It is okay to let go!